Saturday, February 16, 2008

Raghooda's tag :)

Thank you Raghooda for tagging me, its just made me realize so many things of my gender position, I think I am a very frustrated female. :D

Things that make me happy being a girl:


- I do not exactly have to have a car, I can always be chauffeured.
- If I ever say anything stupid, it will count as "cute".
- I do not have to financially be the sole provider, though I would love to be an empowered, financially able female, and thats my goal in life.
-If the girl has some looks, it can get her places, al hamudulilah :D


Things that make me unhappy being a girl:

- Way too much pressure to get me married especially as I get older, therefore biologically burdened
- Looks really does matter for any girls existence
- Extremely prone to harassment
- Virginity is such a huge fuss, unlike men. And a lot of people do not understand that women can enjoy sex as it is, unattached
-being a girl means I have to deal with men and their moodiness, and they are such a total bore and nuisance at many instances --and they are very few enlightened men--
-girls have to triple their amount of their defense line to get their rights. And they will always be labled as psychologically damaged if they seem to be stepping the feminist lines
-At many instances girl have to act feminine and cheeky in order for men to give them what they want, even their rights, which is horrible in my humble opinion, especially for a girl that speaks her mind.
-girls are not exactly understoond as human beings, and men do not quite understand women or their needs
-Not being able to dress the way I want, especially if I am in such a plebian, conservative place. I have to always be wary of the places and the hours I walk in the streets
- Girls are the ones who get pregnant and that’s painful
- girls always have to outsmart men and society to get what they need, and so it is an ongoing mental tension.


All in all, I enjoy being a girl but the older I get, the more tiresome it gets me, for its petty complications, thanx to the man-made complications and the fact that there are very few men.

10 comments:

Abbas Hawazin said...

The best thing about being a man is that you don't have to be pregnant.
tch tch tch, i pity you habibati.

Hmmm...so you're good looking, and you haven't got the hooplas about the hymen like so many faux-modern Iraqi ladies do ; my only hope is that you don't care about that other big bad hoopla Iraqi gals fuss about: the age.

Keep me posted. :P

Abbas Hawazin said...

oh, and by age I mean the age difference between a young man and an older woman, even if it's nly six months

btw, i posted today about our mutual hobby of reading al-Arabiya comments, I'm glad somebody out there is as bored and weird as I am.

programmer craig said...

Good answers, Gilgamish :)

You seemed to answer the questions very honestly. I think most Western women would never admit there is any advantage to being female. Only disadvantages. I've even heard that men look better when they get older, and women look worse, and even that is totally unfair!

You seem to have a very balanced perspective.

We don't have the hangup about virginity any more, but only to an extent. It's OK for women to have sex with their boyfriends but it's not OK for your girlfriend to have slept with every guy you know. Different rule for guys of course! :P

Gilgamish said...

Hello 3abas bin Firnas,

No, I wish if that was the only divisive demographic there between genders and society as a whole, it will be much easier hehe, and poor you, only six months.....what the hell is wrong with that girl...I pity you.

PC, good to see you again, miss your comments, its been a while.

You think i answered with some balance, oh i guess you just agree with me :D


" I've even heard that men look better when they get older, and women look worse, and even that is totally unfair!"

Yeah right, how come they do not talk about pot belly, baldness ect...Actually I have experienced high number of good looking guys at my younger days than now, like almost all men i mean are bald, oh shoot i am exagerating but honstly, Nah, I would not say so.
But i would say men's advantage is that their wrinkling paste is slower.

However, genetics and healthy lifestyle plays a major role, some ppl whether men or women jut look much younger than their actual age. so it all depends, hard to generlize.


"It's OK for women to have sex with their boyfriends but it's not OK for your girlfriend to have slept with every guy you know. Different rule for guys of course! :P"

ah, I think some of the NOt so enlightened Notion of manhood is built on the the men's insecurity and dominance that they can whilst women can not.

In my quest to understand such phenomenon, I think its just men do not want women to reach their paste and I tell you a sexually empowered woman is a free one! Can men handle such women!

I think it gives them a sense of security just like how some women stipulate men with lots of men.

insecurity. and i hate it.

but I wish everyone to find love and be love to not care about everything of that sort and be happy!

I hope cupid is hearing me :D

programmer craig said...

Hi Gilgamish,

PC, good to see you again, miss your comments, its been a while.

Thanks! I missed your blog posts, too! You have a unique style and perspective. I just recently noticed you were blogging again. Glad to see that :)

You think i answered with some balance, oh i guess you just agree with me :D

I do agree with you, but since I'm neither female nor Arab, I'm just guessing :P

Yeah right, how come they do not talk about pot belly, baldness ect...Actually I have experienced high number of good looking guys at my younger days than now, like almost all men i mean are bald, oh shoot i am exagerating but honstly, Nah, I would not say so.

I wouldn't either. I think maybe some women find SOME older guys attractive, but that's not because they are better looking than they were when they were young. There must be something else going on there, I guess.

ah, I think some of the NOt so enlightened Notion of manhood is built on the the men's insecurity and dominance that they can whilst women can not.

Absolutely. Males are very "proprietary" about sex. I think it's a biological imperative for men to be that way, more than a social tradition.

In my quest to understand such phenomenon, I think its just men do not want women to reach their paste and I tell you a sexually empowered woman is a free one! Can men handle such women!

I agree with you. Women have to be very careful with their sexuality though. Men have delicate egos :)

but I wish everyone to find love and be love to not care about everything of that sort and be happy!

I hope cupid is hearing me :D


Me too! The important thing is for people to be happy, and most human being aren't happy without love in their lives. That's just the way we are.

Abbas Hawazin said...

يا انسيكوريتي دادة احنا بدو ما نقبل العار

Abbas Hawazin said...

hey, I just want to tell you is that I'm reading your archive and I'm enjoying it immensely. Most of my friends in college were from the south and I can testify to their simplicity and fun-spiritedness. I don't want to leave a comment here but I have no other way to communicate with you. Just wanna tell you that I'm impressed and to keep writing, especially those random outbursts, they're the most fun.

Gilgamish said...

3abas,

thank you 3aboosi, I am quite flattered, especially from a blogger whom i enjoy reading all the time.


thanx :)

Iraqi Mojo said...

There are very few men??

Gilgamish said...

ee oo alah :D 7i9ar i8ti9adi, 7ata mayijoon bil 7u9a al tamwiniya :D heheheh