hot or cold?

G: Ryan always asks me how I do it, I had no choice but to be self-efficient and strong....

(After a long pause)

Me: Sometimes it is better if you do not have a choice but to be strong, because if you do have the choice of either being weak or strong, you most likely will choose being weak, and be dependent on parents....


(G after his long journey of sufferings and misery, noddes his head with conviction and content esteemed happiness, that he is a self- accomplished young man).